Dear Margot…
“I'm graduating next semester, and my parents have a whole different plan for me than what I wanna do in the future. How do I tell them my goals without it turning into a big argument or feeling super guilty??”
Dear Reader,
Pressures involving the future careers of seniors have always been high. The last thing a senior wants is even more pressure from their parents when it comes to choosing a career to pursue in college. Although it is understandable for a parent to want their child to have a successful and rewarding career, it is important to keep in mind that they very much have a mind of their own with dreams of their own. However, these worries can get the best of most parents and they tend to have a hard time giving their kids the space and freedom to choose who they want to be in the future and letting them learn as they go.
So, to start off with, it is crucial to keep in mind their real intent and have an understanding of why they might be worried. Once you have a better understanding of that, then you might be able to go into the conversation in a more gentle light, putting you in a good headspace if things possibly get turned out of proportion. Of course, when validating their worries, it's a good idea to keep in mind that your feelings are valid as well and that no matter what, they won't be undermined. Pulling them aside at a time of low stimulation for them might help things run smoother. Catching them at a stressful or busy time might tip them over on the less patient side. Keeping yourself true to what you believe is best for you but it is important to take in every word they say in a certain light that allows you to empathize with them. Keeping a balanced mindset into such an important situation will set you up well for the duration of the talk.
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